The Fighting Man – what does he look like? My husband drew a very good rendition of him, even though the drawing does look a little “alien”-ish.
When we are born, we have pure hearts. Hearts unencumbered by pain, disappointment, abuses, humiliations, etc. As circumstances occur in our lives, hurts are deposited like little black marks on our hearts.
For most of my adult life, I had an extreme hate in my heart. That hate was mostly directed towards all men, but it spilled out into a lot of my other relationships. I wore everything The Fighting Man sported. It wasn’t always that way.
Hate. Bitterness. Anger. I was full of The Fighting Man, and my relationships suffered from it. Only One could begin the clean up process.
I parked the car in the garage. It was dusk; that half light, half dark, surreal time of day where nothing seems quite what it is. I turned off the engine and checked the side view mirror. I don’t know what prompted me to make that move, but I did, and something caught my eye.
I was broken, but God was ready to perform the first Big Miracle in my life. He is real, and He gets very personal as He reveals Himself to me and shows me where He’s been all of my life.
I woke up Wednesday morning at 4:00 AM and did something I never do. I purposely touched my chest and under my fingertips I felt a lump. My heart jumped – my eyes jerked open and I was, of a sudden, wide awake. A sick, knowing realization overtook me; over 50 and a lump in my left breast.
Unforgiveness had spoiled my view of everything in my life, and it was reflected in the way I reacted to people and situations. Only one way could free me of these chains. But I needed help…
Not the dog… Us! Do we yell? What is the effect of yelling or shouting in anger? Does it accomplish anything? Are we easily irritated? Do we get angry a little too often?
Let’s take a look at it.
Explosive anger does accomplish some things. Supposedly it releases the pressure that has mounted up in you for some infraction committed. But in actuality, once you get going it seems to propel the emotion further until you are angrier than when you first started.
Just recently, I had the opportunity to engage in three battles. The strategies I used were very different between the first one and the last two. The results were diametrically opposite.